Proverbs 19:5 "A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who pours out lies will not go free."
Proverbs 19:9 "A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who pours out lies will perish."
Having gone through a divorce and ugly custody battle, I have been saddled with un forgiveness. Sometimes I allow myself to replay the tape in my mind, hearing the lies, deceit and dishonesty again can start an avalanche of emotions. If I allow it to continue I soon fine myself mired in self pity and anger - I am angry at the courts, my ex-wife, my lawyer, myself, and even God. I want things fair and I want justice - NOW!
How prideful of me and how little faith in God am I showing by allowing my emotions to take over my thoughts. There is comfort in those Proverbs, though we must temper our perspective and hopes by trusting in God and His timing. We do not know what the future holds and we do not know the hearts and true sufferings of others, but God does. We have no right to judge and condemn others because of their transgressions, but God does.
What we can and should do is simple; we need to let God be God and we need to confess our hearts to Him. We need to be humble and honest, express our frustrations and our pain to Him. We can admit our weaknesses and acknowledge our lack of vision or understanding - but we must let go of the anger and un forgiveness... that is the only part of this scenario that we can control - how we react to them.
We have to understand that we can not control anything about another person - we may try and there might even appear to be some level of successful manipulation at times, but in the end we lose. Look at all the energy we spend in self dialogue, replaying the tapes, playing the "what if" game, and just being bitter. Why not let God deal with them and allow Him to heal our hearts; Let us enjoy the fruits of His spirit and experience the freedom that comes with finally experiencing true forgiveness.
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